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Thought on a post read elsewhere
It's very difficult to be supportive of another person when they have sat in judgment of your method of dealing with the same problem they have. It would be one thing to say, "I'm going through my own stuff and can't deal with yours right now." It's another to project one's own issues about how to deal with something onto another's way of dealing with something similar.
Their dealing with issues of XYZ is "sharing and being open about their issues to promote healing among friends."
Their take on your dealing with issues of XYZ is "airing dirty laundry that they don't want to know about."
Even though the methods were equally valid, though through different channels of communication.
It reminds me of someone once telling me, "My stuff is stuff, your stuff is shit."
Yes it's very difficult to care when in your time of need they turned their back on you and gave you a rather cruel-in-its-dismissivness justification for it.
Maybe it makes people feel better when they are in pain to look down upon others for experiencing similar pain. "Well at least I'm not handling it like them! Look at how horrible they are with XYZ."
Trainwrecks aside, it boggles me how cruel friends can be to others they've called "friend." And I wonder, how they can possibly ask for support from people they've done this to? Is it gall? Cluelessness? Self-absorbment? Or something entirely more insidious?
I'll never know, because I do not care to have such people in my life. So I will never bother to ask them.
Their dealing with issues of XYZ is "sharing and being open about their issues to promote healing among friends."
Their take on your dealing with issues of XYZ is "airing dirty laundry that they don't want to know about."
Even though the methods were equally valid, though through different channels of communication.
It reminds me of someone once telling me, "My stuff is stuff, your stuff is shit."
Yes it's very difficult to care when in your time of need they turned their back on you and gave you a rather cruel-in-its-dismissivness justification for it.
Maybe it makes people feel better when they are in pain to look down upon others for experiencing similar pain. "Well at least I'm not handling it like them! Look at how horrible they are with XYZ."
Trainwrecks aside, it boggles me how cruel friends can be to others they've called "friend." And I wonder, how they can possibly ask for support from people they've done this to? Is it gall? Cluelessness? Self-absorbment? Or something entirely more insidious?
I'll never know, because I do not care to have such people in my life. So I will never bother to ask them.